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Hey, what's up? This is Leo here for actualised.org. And today I want to cover the topic of vacations, and how sometimes taking a vacation is really the answer to all of life's problems, vacations and also breaks because the two are basically one in the same, just with different durations. Now, I have a question for you. Are you a high achiever? Do you consider yourself a high achiever? And if so, how much time? Are you putting into work? Let's say, are you putting in over 40 hours a week? Are you putting in 50 hours? Are you putting in 60 hours, maybe 80 hours? Well, what was the last time you took a vacation from all that, and just took a nice long break. Being a high achiever, myself, or at least how I think of myself as one, I've really found that being able to use your time off in a strategic way, whether it's vacation or break throughout the day, is really important to towards getting maximum performance out of yourself. Because, well, frankly, if you're working those 80 hours a week, you're not going to be able to sustain that forever. And even if you could, the performance that you're getting out of yourself, is not what it could be if you reduce the amount of hours and spent more of that time doing stuff that rejuvenated your mind and your body. So that's where vacations come into play. In fact, the reason I came up with this topic is that the last few weeks, I spent really hammering down on on this website. So I was really doing a lot of work on actualized.org writing articles and shooting video, and spending a lot of time doing coding and etc, etc, doing some research. And basically, I was cooped up in my, in my house doing all that. And I wouldn't even go out to see the daylight until I would only go outside when when it was already dark. And so a few weeks of doing that. And here's what I found is I found that actually I was fairly productive, I got a lot of stuff done, I got a love spent on the site, I got my business, my business developing along the lines that I want it to. But I also started to just get this bad sense, this sense of boredom, the sense that I was kind of everything that I was excited about before, like writing articles, doing research, setting up my site, this is all stuff that I should love to do. After a few weeks of that it's nonstop hammering it hammering in and out is that I started to realize that I'm losing that juice that I have for it. And I'm not as motivated to get engaged. I'm not coming up with those creative ideas. And I just plain old feel bad about myself, I feel like my life is out of out of whack because I'm spending too much of it with my eyes staring into a computer screen. And so when I when I it took me, you know, I was doing this for a couple of weeks. And it took me a while to really even realize what the issue was. An issue was that I just didn't give myself any breaks. And I was just kind of so involved. So in the flow in the moment doing this stuff, day after a day that the days blend together two weeks blend together. And so that's classic work haul syndrome, right. And what I decided to do, and this is something that I came up with, because I've done it in the past, unconsciously now I'm a little bit more aware of how to do it is I just, I plan myself, I basically force myself against my will to take a break over the weekend. So last few weeks, I haven't been working weekends. Rather, I have been working weekends, and weekdays and weekends. So it just like everything blends together and there's no break. And I got started getting so bored that I just told myself, you know what, this upcoming Saturday, and upcoming Sunday, I'm going to spend those days doing anything but work anything but sitting at the computer anything but reading a book, anything but doing some sort of research or shooting a video, or any any kind of web development coding that I was put on the site. And I said that I'm just going to take my mind off of it. Not only am I not going to sit down and do that stuff, I'm also going to take my mind off of it and just think about other things. I'm going to think about, well really anything other than the work. And what I found was that it's actually doing this is challenging. If you're an overachiever type of person, like a type A personality, then you tend to want to always be on the go doing stuff. And you don't really care about taking breaks. Maybe you even pride yourself in that and that you can outwork other people around you. I think that's well and good that can be a strength can also be a weakness, because well, you drain yourself. And the question is How sustainable is that over the long term? So what I did here is actually I just I created like a little mini vacation For myself over over the weekend, Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and what I decided to do is just to go shopping and just go clothes shopping, that some shopping is something that I enjoy. I'm not saying that that's what your vacation should be like. But for me, it was great because it took my mind totally off of work, and allowed me to just look at something else, you know, I was looking at clothes I wanted to buy, because I didn't want to buy just walking around and joining the malls, and etc, etc. What I actually found was that doing that for, for that first Saturday was was fairly easy. I've done this, I've used this kind of strategy in the past, and it was fairly easy to start to just take my mind off work. But then what I found was that after that, for Saturday, actually got the benefit that I was seeking is I got a little bit of refreshment. So my mind felt clear the next day. And I felt I felt eager to jump back in. In fact, I was driving when I was driving back home from the mall in my car, I had some some some new, like creative ideas sort of popping up for me of kind of what kind of video topics I want to shoot next kind of articles, I want to write maybe some other ideas for how to how to develop the site. And so that was great. It was like my creativity was coming back to me after being all sucked out from the few weeks of work prior to that. And what I found was that when I got home later that night, or Saturday night is that I was actually very eager, then to jump back into work, right? And it's again, it's that it's that high achiever tendency, is that okay? I feel a little bit refreshed, I can work now jump back in. But then I kind of held myself back. And I said, No, I'm gonna give it the full two days. I don't want to cut this this vacation short. And so what I did is this the next Sunday, the following Sunday is that I went and I also did shopping, did some other stuff, ran some errands, just totally took my mind off of work, didn't even think about it while I was doing that other stuff. And what ended up happening was that by Monday, I was back back at work. And I found that my productivity and increased my my mind was sharper, everything was effortless to what started happening, the previous week was that started, stuff started to become grindy, I started to develop some resistance around doing some of the stuff that I really should enjoy doing. And, and here, I came back on Monday and stuff just just flowed for me. So this is this is a little mini vacation example that I set up for myself. Now when I say vacation, people usually think extravagant stuff, right? Going to the Caribbean going on a cruise, you know, taking an airplane fly, doing travel, that kind of stuff going to the lake. That's all great that can qualify as vacation. But that stuff is also tends to be expensive has to be stuff that you can't do very consistently, it's something you have to really plan out, you make drawn out plans for that stuff. Well, that's not really what a vacation is. That's kind of what a vacation is in our popular culture. But what I tend to my definition of a vacation is just simply an activity, a goalless activity that takes your mind off of whatever goal directed activity you typically do. So obviously, this applies to your, your, your breadwinning job, whatever that is your nine to five, whatever you're doing, or your the business that you're running or the career that you have. So of course to vacation off of that. But vacations can also apply to other things. For example, maybe you're you're observing a strict diet, and you're really diligent on that and you're working on your on your on your diet, and your nutrition. So potentially, you might want to take a vacation from that because there's tendency to burn out from from doing that much goal directed activity. Beyond Diet, Fitness also comes into play there the to really go hand in hand. So Jim, if you're always hitting the gym, non stop, and you're doing that for for weeks and months on end, then you can tend to burn out on that stuff and also something that might warrant taking a vacation from beyond that anything else any types of maybe hobbies, that you're really seriously involved in any kind of training that you're doing school any any of those kinds of activities where you're pursuing a goal, and you're pursuing some sort of some sort of you have some sort of mission there some sort. There's some sort of metrics for success and you're working towards it, they're stuck you got to do whereas the alternate activity to that is goalless activity. So a goal is activity is just sitting around and lounging by the pool or reading a book just because you enjoy the book and it's it's fun for you not because you're reading the book to get information or to learn something. Other goals activities, I mean hanging with friends, socializing Watching movies, go into clubs and eat that kind of like fun recreational stuff that that is typical going fishing. So all that is goalless. And all of that is great. And I think there needs to be a balance in your life between goal directed activity and goalless activities. And that really brings me to the point of entertainment. Because I think that we live in a really entertainment, entertainment driven culture, we have a lot of, you know, movies, music books, if you think about it, a lot of the most valuable stuff that we have in society is really forms of entertainment ways to take our minds off of work. And we tend to think that well, there there, there's several opinions about this. Some people kind of the party animal stereotype loves entertainment, they just crave that and they want more and more and more, they can't get enough. Other people will maybe probably if you're watching this, this, this video and it's resonating with you, then you tend to be a high achiever, and you tend to actually love to do your work. And you tend to want to work more and more and more maybe to the point where you don't take any time off. And you don't really look at entertainment as something that's beneficial to you, and you tend to see it as something that's frivolous. And there's several ways you can view entertainment. One is you can see entertainment as this frivolous thing that's taking time away from your work, like, you know, maybe you're you're thinking, if I could just put in, if I could just get six hours of sleep, feel well rested and spend the rest of that time doing straight up work, then I would, that would be my perfect my perfect day, my perfect week. So that's, that's one way. The second way is to see entertainment as a means to an end, entertainment is really a way to take your mind off of work and get your mind refreshed and rejuvenated. And so it actually serves a useful purpose. It's not just frivolous. And that's definitely what I'm what I'm kind of pushing for in this in this video. And then the sight of the third point is almost like looking at entertainment as as an end in itself. So whereas looking at entertainment as as a way to rejuvenate your mind for work, that's great. That's like an that's entertainment as a means to an end. So it's a means to get more work out of yourself. Whereas if you're looking at entertainment as an end in itself, well, then you just love entertainment. And for you. Spending time doing entertainment is is kind of the joy in life is the point in life. Actually, I got the sun in my eyes here. So I'm going to move this just a little bit right there perfect, trying to keep myself out of the sun. So an argument can be made that really life is about goalless. directionless activity. And that work is not the point of life, that play is the point of life. And that work is a way to allow you to have time to play. And so some people definitely come from that mindset, probably that kind of party animal stereotype. But I think there's something inherently true about that. In fact, they they did studies on on hunter gatherer tribes modern, some other modern hunter gatherer tribes. And then they applied their findings to hunter gatherer tribes that we were all part of, you know, 10,000 years ago. But basically, in counter intuitively, or intuitively, we think that hunter gatherer tribes, they had a hard life, right, they had to go out and hunt for animals gather food, they didn't have agriculture didn't have a lot of technology. So they spent most of the day working their ass off building shelters, save surviving from predators and, and gathering food. In fact, what they did is when they did these, some of these studies in Africa, they found that African hunter gatherer tribes, they don't spend that much time working, they spent most of their time doing leisure activity, they spend it lounging around and grooming each other and dancing and singing, and just enjoying life and socializing. And that that is the bulk of their day. It's not work, they might work for four hours every day, and the rest of it they spend off and when they're doing that, what do you think they're doing? They're not thinking about work, they're just off enjoying themselves and enjoying the fruits of their labor, so to speak, without worrying about all the stress that comes with with modern day type of work that we have. And so given that, you know, it's it's very, it's actually the truth. It's kind of counterintuitive because it seems like now in modern society in America Do we spend way more time working than kind of our biology was designed for, you know, are you working a 40 hour a week, that's a typical week and 40 hours is still way more than than a hunter gatherer would spend working. And if you're working more than 40 hours, well, then you might really be hurting yourself long term, both kind of mentally and spiritually, and even physically, because that stress will eat away at you in all in all sorts of ways. And ultimately, what it does is it tends to backfire. So if you're very gung ho about being super productive, and ambitious, and achievement oriented, results oriented, I'm all for that, that's definitely me. I think what I've started to find in my life is that it tends to backfire. That kind of mindset tends to backfire on you, if you if you stick too closely to it, and that a much more productive and healthy and more enjoyable way to live, is to get nice vacation time in alongside your work. And I think what that does is that it rejuvenates your mind sets you up to work harder. So instead of spending the weekend doing extra work, what you do is you take the weekend off, enjoy yourself, don't think about work, go party, or whatever you enjoy doing, and then come back on Monday, and on Monday, now you're refreshed, you're creative. Whereas if you work the whole weekend, what would happen is you'd come back on Monday, and you'd be drained. And you'd have a whole week to slog through, and you would start to lose your your your ambition and your motivation for the stuff that you hopefully love to do, which is if you set up your work right, then you love to do what you're working on what brings you money. So why do people overwork this, this is something I've been thinking about, I've been thinking about why I overwork sometimes when I have that tendency, there's definitely I think that aspect of being achievement oriented and results oriented and wanting results faster. So a certain amount of impatience, they're wanting it to come faster. Therefore, you think that if you work more stuff will come faster to you. I think that's one part of it. I think another major part of it ultimately is that it boils down to fear. You fear that if you don't work hard, something bad is going to happen to you. You fear that you're not going to be able to make ends meet. You fear that you're not going to send your kids to college, you fear that you're not going to have that fancy car to attract the kind of person you want to attract in your life, you fear that you're not going to be successful, you're not going to have the fame that you want in life, you fear that you're not gonna be able to retire. So any number of these you feel that you're not going to be significant. Maybe you fear that you're not going to have the fame that you want the prestige, accolades of other people, other people's praise, maybe other people's love, even you might contribute to how much you're working. And so I think that's a dangerous place to come from, I think working from a position of fear is, is where most of us tend to start. But as we develop more and more, and as we grow, and as your personality matures, as as you improve, overall, as your life improves, what you're gonna find is that fear is something you want to move away from as a motivational source. And you want to move towards more of a positive rather than a negative driver in your life. And here's, I've been thinking about this, and I've really kind of came up with this idea, call what I call the ladder of progress, which is a couple of steps that you go through as you're progressing in anything that you're doing in your life, whether it's your career, or going to the gym, or sticking to a diet, anything like that. And what I think of when I think about line of progress is that usually start from from a position of scarcity, right? So let's say, well, let's say you want to improve your nutrition, usually what happens is that when you start, you're you're, you're basically at the bottom of this ladder of progression, you're eating horrible foods, you're eating junk food, drinking sodas, a lot of sugar, processed foods, that kind of stuff. So when you start there, and at first, you're just kind of satisfied with that, because that's all you know, then you probably are gonna get a little bit of awareness around it, you're gonna read a book, some people are going to tell you maybe your health is gonna start to diminish as a result of your diet. And you're gonna start to basically you're gonna tell yourself, Okay, I gotta, I gotta do something about this. And so what you do is you tell yourself that you're gonna eat healthy from now on, and you do it an economy, you don't have a lot of information about you've ever tried it before. So you're gonna give it your best shot, and you're gonna do it kind of half assed way you're not going to be very disciplined about it. You have to be very informed. And what's going to happen is, you will use a certain a certain amount of discipline to get stuff done. But ultimately, you're going to be too lacs about it. And you're going to fall back. So you're gonna advance a little bit for a certain amount of time, and then you're going to fall back, you're gonna backslide, because you weren't very disciplined about it, you weren't consistent, and you didn't appreciate the challenges that were involved. And probably you didn't have all the information that you wanted to have. And then, and then so you fall back. And then then maybe you try again, like a few months later, you try again. And then again, maybe you fall back. And so what happens is, you do that for a while and you get tired, you get frustrated with this, with this yo yo effect of going up and down. And you say to yourself one day, okay, this is it, I've had enough of this, yo, yo, I'm gonna get very serious about this, I'm gonna apply a lot of discipline and get this stuff handled. And so what you do is you Sure enough, you get very motivated every discipline on yourself, use a lot of harsh discipline, a lot of ultimatums and, and a lot of fear behind it. And what you do is you basically fear yourself into a lot of disciplined action, and therefore you get some some decent results, you start really monitoring your your intake of foods, and you start, you start doing good. And then you keep at that, so you've gone up, you've gone up on that progress chart, and you keep doing that you're getting decent results, but it's feeling frustrating. And everything is very effortful, everything is labored, everything's grinding, and you're starting to develop some anger and animosity towards the fact that you have to do it this way. And then other people around you are, are, are eating whatever they want to eat. And ultimately, what happens is that your willpower breaks, your willpower will break down, and you will backslide again, and in fact, maybe this time, the backslide will be even worse, because what happened is that you applied so much discipline, and then you hate to see yourself fail at that. And eventually, your willpower will break, you're gonna have weaknesses in your willpower, so maybe it means that you're gonna go for that ice Greenland tonight, or whatever it might be, and you're gonna fall off track again. And, and then you're gonna get even more frustrated, because you think that you're not capable of, of advancing and progressing. And so what happens then, is that you get even more disciplined, and you really get harsh on yourself. And you basically whip yourself into into shape, and you put a lot of fear behind it, and you get more results. And as you do that, you're getting results. But also, you're building up this, this latent fear. It's like this pool of fear that builds up underneath all of your results. And it's telling you that as soon as you let go of the reins, everything's going to fall to pieces. And the scary thing about that is that in, in some cases, it's illusory. But in some other cases, it's actually true. If you do let go of the reins, if those reins holding onto them. So tight was critical to your success, letting go of the might lead all that to unravel. And so that fear might be legitimate. And what happens is that with, with that fear in place, you really, don't allow yourself to kind of relax, let things breathe, and take on a more easy discipline. And eventually, you you burn yourself out and you backslide again, and after doing this for a while, you're gonna start to realize that that's not the best way to do it. That kind of harsh discipline, what you want instead is you want to, to let things breathe, and you want to take sort of a moderate, a moderate, steady, consistent approach, we're gonna find out after you do a bunch of that, yo, yo, you're gonna get so tired of it, they're gonna say to yourself, you know, what I'm really, I'm tired of this, the short term results, what I want is I want to make changes that that last, I want to make changes that are permanent, and that stick. And I'm willing to sacrifice a little bit of short term productivity, to get that. So if I, if I'm going to start my diet, maybe I'm not going to be so strict on it, you know, maybe I don't have to be perfect every day, maybe I can be just decent, every, you know, every other day. And that will be a good way to start to start the process. And then from there, you tell yourself, well, I'll build on that. Let's see how that goes. And then that goes, well, I'll just build on it and just keep going like that. That kind of approach that kind of more soft discipline that you take, I find it's it's much more of a mature kind of enlightened way to go about progressing in anything, whether it's fitness nutrition, or, or your career or anything that you're trying to get good at, you're trying to progress in your life. And so essentially what you do is you you start to develop a, a very even keeled grounded sort of motivation. And that motivation is grounded in what you want to do not what is scaring the bejesus out of you, which is, you know, fear of fear of failure or fear of not being successful or not being loved or fear of not getting approval from your parents, you know, whatever, whatever that fear is right now that might be motivating you to do what you're doing. You want to try to shift away from that into something that's more positive, the reason why you're doing it for yourself, not for anybody else. And that reason should be because you enjoy doing what you're doing. And somehow it's improving your health or it's improving your life. Ultimately, what you find is even that soft kind of discipline, if you do it long enough, it starts to turn into I think, when you really develop mastery for something, it starts to turn into almost this unconscious. This unconscious behavior habit, that that you start to form. Although I would say that it's more long term than a habit, a habit might take 30 or 60 days to develop this thing might take years to develop is this kind of just unconscious mastery of what your what you're going after. So that nutrition is just automatic for you. It's not even something that you have to discipline yourself about, not even in in an easy way, it's just something that you naturally do, because you've basically integrated it into your, into your head. So that's those are, that's kind of the seven step progress ladder that I kind of came up with, there's more details on that and in the article below. And I find that that's very true for anything that I'm kind of progressing at, I think it's a good gauge to see where you're at and in whatever you're trying to, to master. This is the what step of that ladder you're at, are you at that initial step where you're just kind of totally undisciplined. If you are, you're probably not even watching this, or get one of those higher steps, maybe you're at that step where you're using a lot of fear to motivate yourself. And now you have some awareness around it. So now you can kind of start to shift yourself away from it. The next thing I wanted to talk about is brakes. So, vacations we defined as anything that takes your mind off of goal directed activity. And I tend typically think of a vacation as like, at least a couple of days, maybe a weekend, Friday, Saturday, Sunday type of deal. Breaks are also important, and also a great way to increase your productivity at work. And to me a break is identical to a vacation other than that it's just shorter break is something that lasts, you know, five to 60 minutes. And my question for you is, if you're if you're working hard, how many times during the day, do you take a break while you're working? And how long are those breaks? Are they like five minute breaks? 10 minute breaks, 15 minute breaks? And what are you doing during those breaks? Are you maximizing that break time to rejuvenate your mind so that you can work harder when you get back? Or are you wasting essentially wasting that break by thinking about work while you're while you're breaking or doing something else that's not, it's not as refreshing as it could be? Or are you not even taking breaks at all, which is definitely something that I have a tendency to do is it's hard for me to just stop while I'm in the flow of doing something and taking a break. And then there's also this problem of when you take a break, trying to keep that break to to that 15 minutes that you want it to be rather than having it bleed out into an hour and lead to slacking off of the tasks that you need to do. So breaks, I think are critical if you want to start optimizing your schedule. In fact, what I'm talking about here is setting up a daily schedule for yourself that involves the right proportion of work and play. So that you are getting maximal rejuvenation so that your work can be boosted. And counterintuitively, the work is not boosted by just putting in more hours, what we want to talk about is putting in quality hours versus just pure hours, because you can put in 80 hours a week, but is that going to lead to the same kind of results that you'll get if you put in a high quality 40 hours a week, and and then also spend that other 40 hours now having fun, and doing stuff that you really, really enjoy. So if you can manage that 40 hours of work and 40 hours of play, I think it's gonna be much better scenario than if you just put it all at hours into pure work. And one great technique that I found for setting up your day schedule from from Eben Pagan actually is that you want to work in about one and a half hour to two hour blocks of time where you can totally focus on whatever you need to focus on and you're working really hard, you're working diligently and then you take a break, you take like a 15 to 30 minute break. Maybe you grab some food, whatever the idea, though, is when you're taking that break, totally take your mind off of whatever you were working on. So you're getting, you're getting some new stimulation and you're getting refreshed. And then you go back in and you do another stretch of an hour and a half, maybe two hours where you work real hard and then you take another break and During the day, you only put in maybe two or three of these two hour segments. So ultimately you're you're only doing about four to six hours of true work the rest of it, you're taking time off in a strategic way, and then enjoying all that time that you actually saved for yourself, you, you take that later in the day and do whatever you want with it. So I find that this is a good approach. Because if you just if you create your own schedule for yourself, and you set your schedule from, say, nine to five, and this will mostly apply to let's say, a business owner, obviously, if you're working a nine to five for somebody else, then you have set hours. But if you're, if you're managing your own time, if you have that luxury, then just setting an hour, setting a schedule, like nine to five is when you're working, might not be ideal, because those eight hours, very few people can actually manage to put in eight hours of solid, high quality work throughout the day. This is kind of a misconception, you know, when when when people tell you that they're working eight hours a day, how many of that time were they actually spending doing productive activity, how much of that time are they wasting, looking at Facebook, talking with friends, just doodling or whatever, whatever it is that they do, or just like staring at a blank computer screen. If you're working for yourself, all you ultimately care about is the productivity, you don't care how many hours are put in, per se. So if you can minimize your time and keep the productivity the same, why not do that, right, you're gonna save yourself a lot of hassle, you can feel better. And not only that, you're actually going to get more productivity out of it. Because that extra time that you save, you can spend that time having fun enjoying yourself, and then that's going to put you in a in a more resourceful state when you come back the next week, or the next day. So that two hour skills is something I've I've toyed with and I found that it works pretty well. Sometimes I just put in two, two hour work segments per week, per day. So that's like four hours of total work, sometimes I'll put in three of those. And I find when I do that, I really tell myself I put limits, I put I say that I'm gonna, I'm going to focus for about two hours, that allows me to put all my attention to that one task for a couple of hours, and get much better productivity ultimately get better results better, better output, than if I just sat for eight hours straight and had to work because honestly, what, you can't work very diligently for eight hours straight, you're going to just lose energy and you're gonna need breaks. Speaking of which, this point is, is really underlined in, in a book called The Talent Code, which talks about how to develop mastery of things and how to become very talented how to become world class. And what the author did was he looked at various world class athletes and other professionals, and looked at how they become good in the process of that. And one of the things that that he really stresses is this idea that all all very excellent people, all very productive people. All very talented people tend to do deep practice, which means that they do very, very focused intensive sessions of practicing whatever they want to get good at, whether it's a sport, a hobby, a musical instrument, their career acting, you know, whatever it might be. And so this idea of deep practice is great, I'm going to cover in other topics. But what I really wanted to say about it here was that with deep practice, what what this author mentioned in the Talent Code was that even the people that are the best at what they do in the world, like world class, tennis champions, and chess players, and musicians, they can only sustain a limited amount of deliberate practice per day. And that comes out to like three to five hours total. And even in those those three to five hours, very rarely does an expert is an expert able to sustain more than one or two hours of, of deliberate practice in one chunk of time. So what that tells you is it kind of proves the point that it's very hard to get eight hours of solid productivity out yourself, it's much better to be honest with yourself, you know what, I don't need to bind to this notion that I need to be working eight hours a day, I'll buy into the notion instead that I'm going to work efficiently and productively in shorter blocks of time. And then I'm going to use the rest of it to enjoy myself. And that that is going to lead to the best possible outcome. And so that's the way that I encourage you to structure your schedule structure your day, I encourage you to take breaks regularly take 1015 minute breaks so that you're you're refreshing your mind, spend that time doing something that really takes your mind off the work. And of course, I encourage you to take vacations. If you've ever taken a vacation. Has that ever happened to you where you take a vacation? After like maybe you've worked for two or three years and you've never taken any breaks? And then you take a vacation then you come back to work the next week and you're you feel so rejuvenated. So refreshed, you feel creative, you feel more alive, you feel good in your body, you don't feel frustrated, nothing seems effort, effortful, everything flows for you. It's kind of a shocking feeling to feel that because what happens is it's like, set like that old example of the boy of boiling a frog. If you just take a frog, and you put it in some in some cold water, and then you, you put that in a pan and you put that fan in into onto a stove and you just slowly bring up the temperature, that frog is not even going to register that the water is starting to boil, and basically, the fog is gonna boil in and cook cook itself to death. Because the change is so gradual that the frog doesn't notice. Well, the same thing has to happen if you're working a lot. If you've been working for, for a year or two, basically, what's gonna happen is your body and your mind is going to forget what it feels like to to be creative, it's going to forget what it feels like to be refreshed, it's going to forget to it's gonna forget what it feels like to be motivated and energized and positive. At what you're doing and it's for, you're gonna forget what it feels like to be truly productive with with every minute of your time. And so taking that break, when you take that vacation, it's gonna it's gonna give you a kind of a shock to the system is gonna say, you're gonna save yourself, oh, man, wow, this is what it was. This is what it felt like, but I totally forgot that I could even feel this good. And so if you if you resonate with that experience, then I think you can, you can have kind of a palpable understanding of why vacations and breaks are so important. If you care about your productivity, and your lifelong health and your happiness.